Hello everybody! Today a conversation on judgement, with a little overlap into some other things, and then brought back around onto topic.
Why do we judge? It's ever-present I feel, and toward the end of the video we arrive at a summary of sorts. It's not necessarily bad, nor good.
I feel like it's got a few facets, in my own experience I know I will have judged and allowed that to determine my behaviour and/or actions toward a person or situation, even subconsciously or without even realising I'm doing it. However, like the saying goes, don't judge a book by it's cover.. what does that do? Asking that question when the thought/judgement arises in our heads?
It shines a light on it, the thought still arises (we can ask why that is) but we can then be mindful and aware of it, in our conscience, and remember the quote above. It's recognition, and in turn, you're able to then dismiss your judgement or assumptions and go forth free of those conclusions and free of the control it has on our behaviour/action.
It is interesting to think that despite shining a light on it, the thoughts still come up, and within that we can also ask why? Is it something we want to control? Is it something we dislike? Does it require some inner work/reflection? Is it part and parcel of life, and the reflection/practice of being mindful of it, also a part of life? Do they have a common theme, perhaps wired in/learned from parents/people around us, even society?
Regardless of the reason, it doesn't just disappear with the recognition that we "shouldn't" judge a book it's cover. But the transition is important, and over time I feel we can practice that awareness when those thoughts start bubbling in our minds and constantly improve.. it's not an overnight thing, just like the ego it needs monitoring and reflecting on.. after all judgement can be the correct response to something in order to determine acceptable/unacceptable behaviour in society.
I think this opens the door to more open and compassionate conversations, free of any presupposed determinations, trumped by a desire to be curious and learn more.. first seek to understand, and then to be understood.
What do you think? Do you recognise when you're judging, and bring into question why?
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